Relationships with SUP's are like dancing with a porcupine.
The great Ice Hockey player Wayne Gretzky was quoted as saying, "I'm not the fastest, nor the strongest, but I know how to keep my eye on the puck."
The possibilities are the puck.
Keeping your eye on the possibilities is tricky when you are dancing with a porcupine. It takes a lot of sheer willpower to focus on the possibilities when you keep being stuck by the quills.
If you want relief beyond relief, you must learn to dance with the porcupines.